Here are some comments on the Dark Elf side: It is not custom to sacrifice Dark Elf daughters to Vierdri'ira, else it would have been listed in the Vierdri'ira description, which can be found here:
http://www.layonaraonline.com/forums...d=5030&posts=1
Also, may I suggest you read the Dark Elf society there is on Layonara, it is not matriarchal as in the Forgotten Realms setting, so a female demanding a male patrol to hand over supplies should not expect them to be given over. You can read Dark Elf society here:
http://www.layonaraonline.com/forums...d=2907&posts=1
Thanks.