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Nyralotep · 06-19-06, 09:13 AM

Sometimes people need to see the errors of their mistakes all the way through. People have to be at the end of their ropes before they will allow themselves to be saved. And sometimes pride will not even allow that. But they will take everyone close to them down with them as well.

As has been said before, stay away for now. If he ever does come to you for advice, don't be vengeful but be firm and tell him YOUR rules before he is able to come baqck into your life. Sounds to me though like he has some serious issues in his life he needs to clear up before he ever has a relationship with someone else.

Those things you helped him with, they have a root cause and the guy obviously needs serious conseling to work through these issues. He may have foolishly thought 'it'll be better once we're married'. Never is better with marriage if you have serious problems. Anyway make sure he attends counseling (and continues to attend) before he ever comes back into your life.

06-19-06, 09:13 AM	#12
Nyralotep Beholder Characters Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Aurora, Colorado Posts: 649 Thanks: 108 Thanked 44 Times in 24 Posts	Re: When is being a friend still being a friend? Sometimes people need to see the errors of their mistakes all the way through. People have to be at the end of their ropes before they will allow themselves to be saved. And sometimes pride will not even allow that. But they will take everyone close to them down with them as well. As has been said before, stay away for now. If he ever does come to you for advice, don't be vengeful but be firm and tell him YOUR rules before he is able to come baqck into your life. Sounds to me though like he has some serious issues in his life he needs to clear up before he ever has a relationship with someone else. Those things you helped him with, they have a root cause and the guy obviously needs serious conseling to work through these issues. He may have foolishly thought 'it'll be better once we're married'. Never is better with marriage if you have serious problems. Anyway make sure he attends counseling (and continues to attend) before he ever comes back into your life. __________________ GO TEAM VENTURE!