my new char has the darkness and faerie fire natural ability so i quickslotted them both to not have to radial when needed
but when i log out they are gone and when i die they are stripped out as well
are these not able to last like a druids forms
or is it something special that has to be done to make them stay assigned
What you are experiencing is the way it works.
There's nothing you can do to make them stay permanantly and you will have to reassign them to quickslots each time you die or relog.
Reason: This is because they're on the Drow Subrace Skin which is 'technically' an item and NWN applies the benefits of items to your character right after you log in to the server, so for that moment of time immediately after you log in, and before NWN loops through all your stuff applying the benefits, you technically do not have those abilities. Therefore they are removed from your quickslots. Then in a couple seconds you receive the abilities again as NWN gets to them in your inventory.
A subrace skin is an inventory item even though it's invisible.
The reason the same thing happens when you die is your subrace skin is replaced by the "death penalty skin" then your subrace skin is reapplied, so agian, for a second or two, you technically don't have those abilities, so they're removed from quickslots.
Soooo, it's behaving 100% exactly logically as it was intended to. Whether the way it was intended makes a lot of sense or not. Regardless, theres nothing we can do about it.