No worries! It was difficult for most people in one degree or the other. That can happen with large groups like this. We were all feeling it.
Thanks for trying! There are also other ways to participate if the large quests aren't your thing. Keep in touch with people and keep checking the forums.
I can relate and ended up leaving as well, so your not alone. I could not see transitions (until after relogging) or keep track of the party. I crashed many times and thought it was my computer, along with the server load. If there are ways I can reduce the operations of my laptop to allot more resources to the game, I am all ears. I have a laptop, less than a year old, running Windows 8.1 on an Intel Core i3 2.60G; 4G RAM. Antiviris was shutdown.
Great to see you in-game Flynn! Yeah this quest was really really bad on lag, and I had to relog three times I think, so maybe was not on your side. Keep coming back and it will get better; we're still working out these huge parties and a single server haha.