The World of Layonara
The Layonara Community => General Discussion => Topic started by: ShiffDrgnhrt on October 16, 2007, 09:39:06 PM
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Just so everyone knows, Interia/Kinai/Chrissy will not be able to play layo for an undetermined amount of time. I can't really say why, but I felt I should let you all know.
Shiff
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:( I do hope everything is okay with her!! If you are in contact with her know she is in our thoughts.
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It's a shame. Regards are with her
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Give her our best! I hope shes back soon!
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She will know that every one is thinking of her. I'll make sure personally.
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That is ashame. I have been having a really good time RPing with Kinai. She is such a wonderful Role player and I wish her luck and hope she gets back soon
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Hope she is ok. I was just getting to know her good and think the best of her. Give her my best.
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Well I can tell you all it has nothing to do with her Medical history. She's fine in that regard.
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I will miss her!, and i hope to se her again sometime, Give her my best!
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Well, Chrissy will be back, eventually. Some RL stuff she needs to handle. =)
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Doh. And she was just getting back into the swing of things.
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Same, if/when you speak to her next, pass on my thoughts and best wishes.
Matt aka Pseudonym
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I am in contact with Hawk who is in contact with her at the moment. So any message you want to relay I can give to him who will then transmit to her.
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Just give her my best wishes, too. From what I have experienced she is a good and sensibel person I like to meet everytime IC and OOC. So whoever contacts her next, give her my best wishes.
Thanks!
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Well, anyone who's in contact with her... Could you please give her my number, if she's able to call? It's in my profile.
Even if it's just a few moments to get her number; mmm, free long distance on cell phones.
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Will do
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Thanks.
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Okay, folks, I managed to grab my ancient dinosaur of a comp (5 years old laptop) to type this...
First of all, my parents and I had an argument where my dad decided I was going back to school even without any endometriosis treatment. I'll tell you this much, when the endo kicks up at its worst (which is common for me due to its location), I'm in severe pain to the point where I can imagine it being equivalent to labor pains.
I told my father this, said that there was no way in the nine hells that I would be able to go back...So he threatens me, says it's either school or the computer. Because of that, I get ticked off and slam it shut and told him to take it. By then, I was getting a bit overboard myself in frustration...
So, eventually, the house ended up being a shouting match, and I got to the point in my anger where throwing things and making threats on my health and life felt acceptable.
By then, they decided it was all because of the nasty computer, that this had to do with some addiction, and I was almost admitted into a mental institution called Dettmer. Luckily, that didn't happen. The people there said I wasn't a danger to myself...
In the end, I've lost my main computer and any access to NWN and other games for some time. Not sure when I'll be back ingame... I'm just glad I can log in long enough to type this.
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Sorry to hear the discord going on in your house. Fighting like this is why I always got a job by the time I was 15 to pay for my own computer, so that it was truly mine. Of course my dad still tried to take it from time to time, but I was a good foot taller than him and on the varsity wrestling team for heavyweight by then, so his attempts pretty much got him in an armdrag takedown and headlock full of noogies until he submit and ran off grumbling. Of course he was a mnic depressive psychopath who'd try to ground me for things like our team losing a football game or only getting a B or accidentally knocking over a vase, so I have no remorse for his ego. Such dismal attempts at parenting deserve negative reinforcement.
When you move out of the house finally and start paying your own bills, your relationship with your parents usually improves tenfold. That's right around the time that the tired old "if you live under my roof" argument is null and they start looking for a compatable kidney donor.
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I do hope things calm down for you soon! Hopefully you all can come to a agreement of some type. I'm one of those "mean" Mom's so I am pretty strict on my kids and the use of the computer. They are only allowed on certain about of time each day. More on the weekends. So maybe something like that your father would agree to also. Sounds like he is just concerned about you.
GoodLuck!
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Sorry to hear about the animosity between you and your parents. I wish I could say it gets a bit better as you get older , but alas. They care about you though, and you have to always keep the other side of the argument in mind and try to remain rational. Its hard I know, but...
Good luck with everything Interia. Wishing you well.
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yes ondeed, remaining rational is hard during such an argument. It often helps to think about it afterwards and try after everyone has had enough time to calm down to talk over what happened.
One the one hand during the argument and on the other hand maybe even the rason for the argument.
My best wishes and I hope you can sort this out,
See you when you are back!
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Poor thing :(, you have my support and best wishes during all of this, i know personally how hard such things can be and now i am in a position where im the one at the top of the house hold.
I am sure they are just concerned about you, and i suppose you have probably missed a ton of school due to these problems, but really school is important but not more important than your health as classes and all of that can be made up, college is available for all of those other needs in getting where you want to be in life.
Shouting is really not the answer, usually i find the teary approach to be the best solution, since it shows more towards how you feel, then again i dont know your parents so im probably not really giving the best advice hun :(.
Sit down with them rationally, talk with him, explain to him how much it hurts, explain to him exackly how you feel, tell him the results of what would happen if you were back at school and you felt the pain etc.
Try your best to make them understand in a calm and rational matter.
The pc is something that allows you to forget about your problems yes, and if overused it can become a problem, its good that you are able to stop and leave it, but remember that you do need to be able to unwind, you do need to be able to relax and sometimes its even good to escape reality.
Anyway i rant and ramble to much, you have my best wishes and i hope you sort it out in a way that pleases you both.
Goodluck dear
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Sorry to hear about that :( I hope things all work out and you're in that game soon!
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Here's the new update...
I can use the comp from 8pm-9pm from now until the 25th of October. The deal is, if I can catch up on all my homework, attend school regularly (like that'll be happening unless the pain goes away), and be a good girl in general...I can use the comp from 7pm-9pm from the 26th of October. The newer rules on that are I need to practice piano for 20 mins each day, do all my work, maintain a grade above 3.5 GPA, and again be a good girl in general.
The iron fist hits when the rules of never touching any games again come in...Otherwise, if I keep up on all of his "requests," I can use the comp at any time for as long as I need...Breaking a single rule will drop me back down to 1 hour a day.
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Also, sorry for the double post, I really don't need advice. The rule in this house is if my parents say something, I listen without any word against them...Even if they're being unfair as all humans make mistakes. If I do say something, I get to lose something important.
I admit I went completely overboard before, but you know, I was getting sick of him telling me to go back to school while I lay curled up on the couch and sobbing because the pain was so bad. I was in no shape for it.
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Heh...reminds me of the time where my father (Who hasn't lived with me since I was three) devised the "Two hours a day on the computer" rule...
My advice: Just go with it and pretend your fine.
In about 3 weeks my mom changed it to "One hour on two hours off"
and in another 2 weeks my mom just gave up caring.
Alternatively. Pay for your own internet. Then they can't take it away.
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Kinai, endometriosis is the pits, and it's not easy to keep it under control. You already know distraction helps with the pain--ie Layo. Consider taking your parents up on the psych help, and insist on someone who can teach you relaxation and even self-hypnosis techniques to find other ways to deal with pain. Yoga is another possibility. Even a good massage helps, because pain in one place tenses the whole body, which then feeds back more pain into the area of hurting. Find what works for you now. It will help a lot in getting your life back on track.
Love--Granny Serissa
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Keep your chin up do what you need to do to get back in shape, health and all.