Since this topic is so confusing, I was trying to draw a web diagram with all the dieties, connected by different colored lines representing whether they were Allied, Friendly, Neutral, Unfriendly or Enemies of every other diety.
As I started I realized why this topic is so confusing.
Some dieties that are listed as allies on one dieties page, are as far as neutral on that dieties page.
For example (I was looking into Ilsare to start with because of the hlint enchanting pool contreversy):
On Ilsare's page she is allied with Aeridin, Deliar, Lucinda, Kithairien, and Xeen. However, Deliar and Xeen only list Ilsare as friendly on their pages.
Az'atta's page lists her allies to be Ilsare, Goran, Deliar, Lucinda and Aragen. However, Ilsare's page lists Az'atta as neutral.
Rofirien lists Vorax, Dorand, Toran, Katia and Aragen as allies. Katia lists Rof as friendly.
I'd think both parties would have to be aware and willing for them to be considered allies and even if not entirely allied, that their official stances toward each other would be convergant. I'm not sure if these are intentionally inconsistant, or if they were originally consistant and as some of the dieties evolved things got skewed a bit. But.. it sure is confusing... and I'd hate to be a cleric of Az'atta thinking they were going to get a good reception with the clergy of Ilsare....
-TV