Okay, I did die previously and I went and prayed to the grave marker; however, 10 minutes later I got killed again (dang poison), and I lost 32,000xp. It was my understanding that if you visited your grave and reconstitued your body before dying agian, that you didn't lose XP.
I'm still on, 2:21PM PST and I couldn't get a DM to respond, so I'll just go with getting an answer if I can.
What a bad day, rolling 1s like crazy it seems.
Thanks.