to clarify a bit more, and I'll say right now I'm no professional phsycologist, but studies show that suicide is a cry for attention. Judging from nature of many of the posts he's made on these forums since he started here, and the continuing posts since his banning, attention is something Krell seems pretty intent on getting. Telling someone you barely know that you're thinking of committing suicide though, is not an appropriate way to get it, even if it is somewhat effective.
Maybe this post makes me sound calloused, and from years of dealing with these sorts of things in other online gaming communities I guess I am. I used to be like my wife, and offer a shoulder to cry on to just about anyone. Then I realized with most of those I was trying to be friend to their problems were making me feel awful all the time myself, and nothing I said ever seemed to help them resolve their problems because they never truly listened to any advice given, but rather continued to wallow in their own self-misery as though they enjoyed being that way.
You know, I've been sitting about, thinking on this whole issue (as I had found myself becoming friends with Krell shortly before his ban, and thusly was told everything - well, everything he'd tell straight - as it unfolded, more or less) for a while. And there's a lot to think about - the good of the community, of various individuals within and without that community, of plain and simple moral ideals... But I've come to a few conclusions.I disagree very strongly, for personal and moral reasons, with Leanthar's decision to ban him - or, rather, for his reasons for doing so. I'm sure there are those who agree with those reasons; I understand that, and don't hold any ill will for it. However, having been in a similar life situation, I feel that an instant, permanent ban is absolutely unwarranted. This isn't blatant sexual harassment that's in question, here, but some kid reaching out for whatever help he could find. I've been there.I disagree (if not quite as strongly) with Krell's decision to bring this out in the way that he did. While the one "truth about the ban" thread might not've been too terrible, the other(s?) was over the line of what's reasonable. I'd been very happy that he was taking the ban so well, and was being so goodnatured about it... Leaving well-wishes for folks here and the like. It's disappointing, to me, that it's fallen out this way.All in all, I suppose you could say I'm still sitting on the fence, thinking about all of this. I don't think either party really got it right. I'm not sure how this whole situation bodes for the community. I'm not sure about a lot.Ah, well. *Tips his hat.*
Hallelujah. The one thing that has always made the Layo community stand out is the maturity of the majority of the players. This is not ageism - I have met players that I got along with like a crony and was stunned (and pleased) to discover they were 14, 17. And while most players will ask others for help - there are a few Layo folk who have been on the receiving end of one of my extended whines recently - most of us know when to step back. And when to give back.And then, there are players who have problems that transcend the cathartic relief that Layo gives us from our day-to-day lives, players who become either too wrapped up in the game or who need far more help than a disembodied text over an avatar's head can provide. We've all read the news from time to time presumably - suicide is not a joke, and I applaud Hanna for taking steps that a lot of people would not have taken in order to possibly save a young life. However, it appears (and I will certainly rescind this if more information is made public) that the call for help was not as sincere as it could have been, and as Nhet said, it becomes very not funny at that point. I believe it's griefing, absolutely. And I think the team did the right thing under the circumstances.
I know he is not the suicidal type aswell. It is called a joke. At least from my expierience with him it is.
I know he is not the suicidal type aswell. It is called a joke. At least from my expierience with him it is. See, he believes that suicide is for the weak, as do I. Both me and him do not like todays society because alot of people commit suicide, which means that this society is weak. My father always said I was born in the wrong time period. Thats enough about my thoughts.
I will not give out my email to discuss this, nor my msn for me this needs to be closed because this is really hitting to close to home for my comfort level and I truly wish that the discussion would end.